As A sur-Thriver™ of child sexual abuse and sexual assault, I have a unique approach to life, I say our past does define us. Yes, it does! We are looking at it al wrong!!!

The problem: Most people, as I did, look at their past trauma and only focus on the negative, the crime, and that keeps us stuck in the shame of what was forced upon us. I was stuck for years because of the shame of my perpetrator’s crimes until one day I screamed the words; “I am tired of being ashamed of crimes I did not commit!”

I know the years of child abuse played a massive role in my lack of self-esteem and self-worth, However, I was determined to heal those hidden scars because I knew my story and my journey would help other survivors release the shame that they carry. We did not commit the crime; we must stop doing the time!

Survivor to sur-THRIVER™

That is when my journey of self-development reemerged, and I came to understand that counseling is extremely helpful but most often it is not enough to help us become the person we are meant to be. We must continue learning and growing into becoming our highest potential.

After a successful career in sales and marketing in the construction industry, I embarked on what I know is my life purpose, and that is to share the self-development tools that I found and developed with other survivors who have had counseling but are still struggling and stuck because of the crimes forced upon them.

Advocate for adult survivors of #CSA #MeTOO

Today as a TEDx Speaker, Keynote Speaker, and Speaking Coach I am honored to advocate for adult survivors of #CSA #MeTOO and to help others find their voice and live positively in their life.

My programs take an innovative approach that focuses on mindset success for 100% personal accountability. The THRIVE Perspective® philosophy is a solution-based approach that helps survivors focus on and be proud of their courage, strength, and tenacity to persevere during and after trauma.

We have nothing to be ashamed of and every reason to live a happy, healthy productive life, despite what happened to us. My favorite saying is “Happy is the best revenge” and it is my mission to share that with other survivors and help them become a sur-THRIVER® in their life.

I had the great privilege to share my story on “THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW” and honored that my TEDx Talk is being used in the United Kingdom for their ACE program and helping victims and survivors around the world.